"[Rules I’ve unlearned…No. 10] What I now know is that losses aren't cataclysmic if they teach the heart and the soul their natural cycle of breaking and healing. A real tragedy? That the loss of the heart and soul themselves. If you've abandoned yourself in the effort to keep anyone or anything else, unlearn that pattern. Live your truth, losses be damned. Just like that, your heart and soul will return home." –author, life coach Martha Beck, O Magazine, May 2010